Crossing over into a new year always seems to make everyone introspective, even if we want to fight it tooth and nail, we really can’t help ourselves. Some people buck it, some people jump into it and vow to completely change their entire life. and others, like me, will use the time to notice what needs to be fixed or changed or worked on, and maybe we work on those things, but more than likely the idea was enough.
I always want to really clean on the first days of the year. I like to ideally start a couple of days before. On the first, I like to refresh things like linens and clothes, smoke detector batteries, throw out the old stinky potatoes that I forgot in the back of the pantry.
(I’ve bought new potatoes 3 more times since I bought that bag months ago…Old moldy potatoes really smell…I had a baked potato last night and the night before…I just purchased them the other day, when there was a whole bag in there already…what is wrong with me..seriously who does that?)
But this year I found myself refreshing something that has been dragging me down all year.
My Social Media habits.
I started with Facebook about a couple of weeks ago. I am just not on there nearly as much. I am in a few groups and I love to chit chat and socialize digitally, but sometimes you need to know when to pull back and get stuff done. I’m not one of those people who has to temporarily leave a platform or deactivate my account, in order to detox from it. I just decide that I don’t want to deal, and I don’t. It does help that I don’t follow many people on Facebook. I mainly follow blogs and brands that I like. If I want to see what people are doing, I visit their pages.
I’m sure you’re wondering why I don’t just unfriend folks?
One reason, I actually know like 98% of the people that I’m friends with on FB in real life. Digital unfriending often leads to real life conflict.
Who has time for that?
I wish Instagram was as easy.
Something like the Twitter mute button would be ideal.
When I first started on IG, I was, again mostly connected with friends and family. But you can only see so many Kermit and Michael Jordan crying memes, so many blurry pics, so much gross looking food, so many street fights, and so much celebrity gossip.
And let’s not forget how the misogynistic guys I happen to know think they are so damned clever with their “women are crazy” or “these hoes” posts. If you don’t know people who share things like this, consider yourself lucky and can I come hang with you?
Being a lifestyle blogger, artist, intelligent, self-respecting woman, I have opted for a more beautiful, more curated, more positive, less basic feed, so I stopped following people who didn’t share my interests, the memers, the overly opinionated, the I hate drama but always start the drama chicks, anybody with a droid ( no offense, but those pics are the worst).
And even though I have managed to avoid adding any new questionable people, I unfortunately still follow some of those folks who were grandfathered in because they were there from the beginning.
But now, something in this new year triggered the need to purge. Just like the old linens and the potatoes, some digital things have to go as well.
Sounds kinda ominous.
I think the straw that broke the camel’s back was when one acquaintance, who has been known to post annoying shit (excuse my English) from time to time, as well as questionable comments here and there, decided to be extra annoying on yesterday.
Essentially, this person decided to post a message to people that had a crappy year, that it was basically their fault because they rely on others for their happiness.
His advice, let people go, do you, be happy.
So I took his advice.
I let some people go.
I started with him
And yes…I’m happier
See, I have no patience for selfishness, negativity, lack of compassion and rudeness in my world. It’s nice that his life is perfect and he has everything figured out, but there are some of us who simply couldn’t wait to see last year end even if it was just for a brief moment of celebration for making it through and possibly for a chance to start over. Be gone, person who doesn’t have enough empathy to understand that nobody wants to hear that noise.
So I guess that’s my confession. I’m cleaning social media house. Bye Felicia, Felix, and anybody else who doesn’t get it. You can say what you want, I just don’t have to have it thrust upon me. Everybody wins!
If this seems extreme, I understand, but it is something that I feel that I have to do because being on social media is part of my job as a blogger/vlogger and if I’m going to do it well, I need to limit the distractions, the nonsense, extra opinions, and negativity.
Some people will never get what I do, they can’t comprehend or don’t want to. They see their social media accounts as literal extensions of their mouths. I see mine as a huge part of my brand. And I learned a long time ago that we all aren’t on the same journey (or sane journey as autocorrect so intuitively wanted to type) I can’t have others changing the settings on my life’s GPS…okay that is possibly the corniest thing I have ever written, but it is also probably the truest. 😳
I have never have been one for resolutions, well actually, I did make a skincare resolution to stop touching my face; It’s really important, but other than that, I typically don’t do the whole resolution thing.
However, I do like the idea of cleaning house, physically, mentally, and definitely digitally. And you can bet that I won’t wait until the start of a new year. I’ll be purging the unnecessary all year round.
I feel lighter already.
What are some of the things you plan on getting rid of this year?
Let me know in the comments.
Have a happy 2017, not just the new part, the whole year.
*The photo above is of my lovely daughter. I just thought it was fitting*
New Year Kisses,